Is there anything more beautiful then rocking your new baby to sleep and enjoying some wonderful snuggles as they doze off to sleep? Rocking your baby to sleep can feel great those first few weeks or months together. But your baby is going to get bigger and heavier. Your baby may have once slept great when you rocked them to sleep, but now is waking up shortly after you put them down into the crib. You might even be at the point where your toddler still needs to be rocked to sleep.  

 

 

At some point, you’re going to be ready to break the habit of your child being rocked to sleep.

But a lot of parents get very nervous when they think about how they’re going to be able to stop rocking their little one to sleep.

Take a deep breath.

It is possible to get your child to sleep without needing to be rocked to sleep?

Let’s walk through how you can wean your baby from needing to be rocked in order to fall asleep.

 

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Why Do Babies Need to be Rocked to Sleep? 

Before we address how to wean the rocking to sleep habit, lets talk about why babies need to be rocked to sleep. 

You probably began rocking your baby to sleep when they were a newborn.

Newborns do really well with a rocking to sleep motion. It brings them back to that womb-like experience. When your baby was in the womb, they were gently moving around. Any time you moved, they baby would experience that gentle rocking motion.

So when your baby entered the world, it was reassuring to them to experience that rocking motion. It is helpful to be able to calm and upset baby. If your baby was crying around bedtime or naptime,  you likely found that rocking them helped to soothe and relax them. And that helped get them ready to sleep.

Baby Will Only be Rocked to Sleep

This may have become a habit over the last few months or even years. If you’ve got to the point where your baby will only be rocked to sleep and can’t fall asleep without being rocked, it can become exhausting.

It may take you a long time to rock them to sleep. Or you might even find that your baby is waking up several times throughout the night and can only fall back to sleep by being rocked back to sleep.

The reason why your baby is having a hard time falling asleep without being rocked to sleep, is because they’ve come to associate needing this rocking motion from you in order to go to sleep. In other words, they’ve developed what I call in the sleep coaching world, a “sleep association” between rocking and sleeping.

What happens when a baby develops a rocking to sleep association, is that they need you to help them fall asleep. They haven’t developed the skills to self soothe. The only way that they can possibly start their journey into sleep, is by being rocked to sleep.

Rocking Baby to Sleep for Naps & Bedtime

 It is very common that you will find  your baby waking up throughout the night. Or your baby is taking very short naps. You may also find that when they wake up at night or after a 30-minute nap, they need you to come and rock them back to sleep.

The reason why you’re seeing those night wakings and short naps is because your child isn’t in the same place they were when they fell asleep.

Think of it from their perspective. They fell asleep in your arms, feeling safe and warm. They felt that gentle swaying motion of being rocked as they shut their eyes and drifted off into baby dream land. Then you very carefully laid them down into their crib or bed, and quietly walked away. 

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After they completed the deep, restorative part of their sleep cycle, they briefly wake up and take in their surroundings.

And that’s when they get upset. They are tired. But they’re not in your arms anymore being rocked. They’re in a completely different place then they were when they fell asleep. And they’re not experiencing that gentle rocking motion anymore.

So what do they do? They begin crying out for you to come and help them get back to sleep because they haven’t developed the skill to fall back to sleep on their own, without being rocked to sleep.

Still Have to Rock Toddler to Sleep

Additionally, toddlers may become accustomed to the rocking motion, requiring a lot more time to fall asleep or needing the same level of motion to stay asleep. 

Babies are not the only ones who need to be rocked to sleep. I have worked with a lot of parents with toddlers who still need to be rocked to sleep as well.

And it does get harder the older your child gets. A 2 year old is a lot heavier and wigglier then a 2 month old.

Rocking a toddler to sleep can be challenging due to their boundless energy, often making them resistant to settling down.

Additionally, toddlers may become accustomed to the rocking motion, requiring a lot more time to fall asleep or needing the same level of motion to stay asleep. 

But the good news is that you can wean both babies and toddlers off of needing to be rocked to sleep!

 

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When to Stop Rocking an Infant to Sleep

There isn’t an exact age limit that you need to stop rocking your child to sleep anymore. The right time to breaking the rocking to sleep habit is when it’s not working for your family anymore. Ask yourself…

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» Do you dread bedtime every night because you don’t know how long it’s going to take your child to fall asleep?

» Is rocking your child to sleep getting uncomfortable? Are you feeling physical pain in your back or arms as a result of your baby needing to be rocked to sleep?

» Is your baby not getting enough sleep because they’re waking up throughout the night and can only fall asleep when you rock them back to sleep?

» Is your baby taking short naps (anything less than an hour and a half)?

» Have you been thinking I can’t rock baby to sleep anymore?

» Have you found yourself passed out with your baby in your arms? Don’t be ashamed, this has happened to so many of us. But this is a dangerous sleeping environment for your baby. 

» Are you exhausted by needing to rock your toddler to sleep?

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Nodding Along?

If you answered yes to any one of these 7 questions, then rocking your child to sleep just isn’t working for you or your child anymore. And it’s time to teach your child to self soothe, so that they don’t rely on being rocked to sleep anymore. 

Babies are old enough to self soothe once they are around 15 weeks (adjusted). So if you have a baby who is over 15 weeks old, and you’re ready to break the rocking to sleep habit, NOW is the perfect time.

I don’t want you to stress about not getting that special bonding time with your child in the bedtime routine anymore. You can still have some great cuddle time before they go to sleep in the bedtime routine! Let’s talk about how you can do that while weaning them from being rocked to sleep.

 

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Step 1: How to Wean Rocking Infant to Sleep

The first step to wean your baby or toddler from being rocked to sleep is by creating a bedtime routine that still includes lots of snuggles.

Your child’s bedtime routine can start off with a bath. Then you can get them dressed into their pajamas. If you’ve got a baby then also dress them into their arms free sleep sack.

If your baby is under a year old, then this is the perfect time to give them their last feed of the day. This is a great time to snuggle and bond with your baby. If you have a baby or toddler over a year old, then you’ll skip this step.

Next, pull out a book or two and read to your child. It’s never too early to get your child interested in books. And this is another great opportunity for closeness, snuggles and touch in the bedtime routine. But limit the number of books to just two. You don’t want the bedtime routine to drag on too long that your child gets drowsy or overtired.

If you’re looking for good books to read in the bedtime routine, check out my two favorites for children of any age:

 

But mix up the books you read. Give them some variety to begin expanding their horizons.

Then you can say good night to your child and lay them down into their crib or bed (if you have a toddler).

You’ll notice that while there’s opportunities for snuggles in the bedtime routine, there’s no step for rocking them anymore. Instead, you’ll go from reading books and saying good night, to putting them down into their crib awake now.

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Step 2: How to Stop Baby From Wanting to Be Rocked to Sleep

 Yikes! Did what I just say make your heart skip a beat? Did I really just say that you’ll put your baby or toddler down into their crib wide awake? Yes, that’s exactly what I said.

Your child needs to learn how to fall asleep without your assistance of being rocked to sleep. And your job as their parent is to help them feel loved and supported on their journey of learning the skills needed to fall asleep on their own.

Stop for a moment and think about what you’re going to do a few years from now when you teach your child to learn how to ride a bike. Learning how to ride a bike is a skill that they need help practicing before they’re able to completely do it on their own.

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They’re going to need you running along next to them, cheering them on, and helping them up when they fall. There may be a few bumps and bruises and even tears along the way. But they will absolutely get it with your help and a little time.

And it’s the exact same thing with sleep. It’s very likely that your baby will cry or that your toddler will protest. They’re protesting this change. It’s the only way that they can communicate that they’re not happy about this change.

But you don’t need to leave your child alone to cry it out and figure out how to fall asleep without being rocked all on their own.

Baby Sleep Without Rocking

In fact, in my gentle sleep training course Live Love Sleep Academy, I almost always recommend that parents stay in the room with their child when they’re teaching their child how to fall asleep without being rocked. Think about it. Your baby has been so dependent on you in order to fall asleep. Completely removing you from their sleep situation would be very tough on them. And it would probably be even harder on you.

You can stay with them, sitting by their crib or bed. Be comforting by letting them hear your voice. Be supportive by letting them feel your touch so that they know that you’re still there and that everything is ok. If you have a younger baby who responds really well to being picked up, then by all means pick them up if they’re crying.

And do you want to know the best part? Your baby is going to learn how to fall asleep without being rocked very quickly! The families I work with usually see HUGE improvements within 3 – 4 nights!

When you follow the steps I’ve outlined above, you will find that within a few nights, your baby will be falling asleep quickly and easily at bedtime and at nap time. But I understand that embarking on a big journey like sleep training can feel overwhelming.

 

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Breaking the Habit Rocking Your Child to Sleep

If you need help creating the perfect sleep plan for your child, I’m here to help solve your child’s sleep struggles and support you. My gentle sleep training program helps families to establish healthy sleep skills for life.

Just imagine doing a 20 – 30 minute bedtime routine with your child each night. You give them a kiss, lay them down into their crib or bed and are able walk away,  knowing that they will happily close their eyes and fall asleep all on their own without anymore rocking or crying. And they’ll sleep all night that way!

 

 

You’re just a few nights away from amazing sleep!

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I’m Kaley Medina, the proud founder of Live Love Sleep®. I live in Texas with my husband and high school sweetheart, Zeke, along with our two wonderful children, Evalyn and Leo, and our furry companion, Louie.
My journey into the world of sleep consultancy began with the sleep struggles of my own daughter, Evalyn. From her early days, she proved to be a challenging sleeper, staying awake for waaaaaay too long and causing many sleepless nights. I tried everything I could think of, from feeding her to sleep to bouncing on a yoga ball until my legs ached to the delicate process of transitioning her to her crib without waking her. I even resorted to late-night vacuuming while wearing her in a baby carrier….needless to say, none of it work.

The constant sleep deprivation left me frazzled and unable to enjoy precious moments with my family. Desperate for a solution, I ventured into the world of sleep training when Evalyn turned six months. To my surprise,

gentler methods yielded incredible results, transforming our lives. Fueled by this success, I became a Certified Sleep Consultant and founded Live Love Sleep®. As your Pediatric Sleep Consultant, I understand that a child’s sleep is influenced by various factors, including diet, sleep environment, routines, schedules, developmental milestones, and so much more.

I craft personalized sleep plans that consider the bigger picture to solve your child’s sleep challenges comprehensively. What sets my services apart is the ongoing support I provide, ensuring your family reaches its sleep goals within weeks.

A former client described the experience as “utterly LIFE CHANGING.” I’m committed to helping parents like you and your child get the rest you need and deserve. Let’s work together to achieve better sleep and a happier, healthier family life.

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