Embarking on the challenging yet rewarding journey of sleep training twins is a transformative experience for parents. The delicate balance of fostering healthy sleep habits while nurturing individual needs is an art form. In this comprehensive guide, we’ll unveil the strategies and secrets that will empower you to navigate the intricacies of sleep training for your dynamic duo.

Just imagine being able to put your twins down to sleep at bedtime at the same time, having restful nights, and synchronized nap schedules that bring peace to your home. The term “sleep training twins” may sound daunting, but I’ve got you covered. I’m here to guide you through every step of your sleep training journey. Whether you’re a first-time parent of twins or seeking a fresh approach for a better night’s sleep, this guide is your roadmap to creating a sleep haven for your little ones.

As parents, we understand that the quest for a good night’s sleep is more than just a desire – it’s a necessity. The joy of seeing your twins peacefully drifting into slumber, night after night, is within reach. Are you ready to embark on this transformative journey to unlock the secrets of successful sleep training for your twins? Let’s dive in!

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Sleep Training Twins in the Same Room or Different Rooms?

The question I often get asked is should you be sleep training twins in the same room or separate rooms. The choice you make can significantly impact the success of the sleep training process. While having twins share a room may seem like a convenient option, the reality is that individualized sleep spaces often yield better and faster results.

When sleep training twins in the same room, consider the potential for disruptions. One twin’s sleep patterns might inadvertently impact the other. This can lead to a cascade of bedtime chaos. The cries of one may prevent the other from falling asleep. That can crease a challenging environment for both children and parents alike.

Ideally, sleep training twins in separate rooms provides a more effective and personalized approach. You can still do their bedtime routine together in one room. But once the lights go off, having them in separate rooms like sleep training accommodates the unique needs of each twin. This separation minimizes disturbances, enabling one twin to sleep peacefully without being influenced by the other’s sleep patterns.

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While transitioning to separate rooms may seem daunting, it doesn’t have to be a permanent arrangement. Consider making temporary adjustments to ease the transition. For example, you can keep one twin in the nursey and move the other to your bedroom, a spare bedroom or your office space. You can set up a mobile crib like a pack and play for a couple of weeks. Then once your little ones have learned the skills they need to fall asleep, you can move both back into the bedroom.

Separate rooms also offer you as the parents the opportunity to cater to the specific sleep preferences of each twin. Customizing the sleep environment to suit individual needs contributes to a more successful and harmonious sleep training experience.

But if your babies are over 18 months old, keep them together if they currently are. Once we start getting into the toddler years, you’re going to find that they don’t handle change as easily as they did when they were little.

Sleep Training Twins for Naps

In a perfect world, you’re going to be keeping your twins on the same schedule. This means that you want them feeding at the same time, going down for naps, and bedtime at the same time. You want to be getting your babies or toddlers on the same schedules and the same routines.

When it comes to sleep training twins for naps, you’ll want to get them ready for their naps at the same time. This means that you can do the same naptime routine with them. And you can do this routine together.

A great twin naptime routine could be starting with a diaper change, then changing them into their sleep sacks. Once they’re dressed for sleep you can read them a book or two  , turn on their white noise machine and then lay them down 

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into their crib or bed awake.

Again, if you are able to have them in separate rooms for sleep training, this is ideal…especially when it comes to naps! Because one child may be taking a short nap while the other is able to connect their sleep cycles and take a longer one.

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The 30-Minute Rule

You’re probably thinking, “well ok Kaley. But what happens if one is sleeping longer than the other?” And that’s a great question because guess what? That is absolutely going to happen. One baby may have slightly different sleep needs than the other.

Here’s the golden rule for sleep training twins for naps. I call it the 30 Minute Rule. You’re not going to let one baby sleep longer than the other by more than half an hour.

That will keep them on the same schedule because a half an hour is not enough time to really alter a body clock too significantly.

Let’s walk through an example of what this might look like when you’re sleep training twins. Say you’ve got babies on two naps a day, which would be about a 3 hour awake window. Let’s say baby number one takes a one hour nap. Then you’re going to wake up baby number two at one and a half hours.

This would mean that baby number one gets 3 hours out of their crib between naps. And baby number 2 is only going to have two and a half hours of awake time. But that way you’ll be able to start their next nap time routine together and get them down at the same time.

In the first day or two of sleep training, your babies may be crying when they’re being put to bed. One might cry for 15 minutes and fall asleep and one might cry for 45 minutes and fall asleep.

That’s where this can get a little be tricky. You’re going to be wondering if you should wake one up. Because how do you keep them on the same schedule when they’re falling asleep at different times and waking up at different times?

When to Begin the 30-Minute Rule

This is why I recommend not worrying about the 30-minute rule for the first 3 days sleep training twins for naps and bedtime. Just let your babies sleep as long as they will sleep.

Because right now, you’ve got some sleep deprived babies on your hands. And you really do want to get them caught up on their sleep and say good bye to that sleep debt as fast as we can. Yes, they will be on different schedules for a few days.

But starting on day 4, we’ll get them back in sync and begin using the 30-minute rule when sleep training twins for naps and bedtime. At that point, you’re going to begin putting your babies down to sleep at the same time for both bedtime and naps.

So even if one baby slept 30 minutes more than the other, you’re still going to put both of your children down for the next nap or bedtime at the same time starting on day 4 going forward.

A Transformation

My client Lisa, was determined to synchronize the nap schedules of her energetic twins, Max and Mia. In just one week of sleep training, Lisa successfully aligned their nap routines. By sticking to a consistent 30-minute rule by that 4th day, she ensured that neither twin slept significantly longer than the other.

During the initial days, Max and Mia showed some resistance, and varied with the amount of time that it took them to fall asleep. Lisa resisted the urge to wake her sleeping baby in the first few days, understanding that those first few days were crucial for her sleep-deprived twins to catch up on much-needed rest. Acknowledging the temporary misalignment of their schedules, Lisa patiently waited until

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day 4 to implement the 30-minute rule.

Following the 30-minute rule meant waking the second twin after a half-hour difference in nap duration. This strategy allowed Lisa to maintain a synchronized schedule, ensuring that both Max and Mia went down for their next nap or bedtime at the same time. While the initial days presented a challenge, she told me that the long-term benefits of synchronized napping far outweighed the temporary inconvenience.

Getting Twins to Sleep at Night

Getting twins to sleep at night may sound like a challenge at first, but you can absolutely do this. The key is to establish a synchronized bedtime routine that accommodates the unique needs of each twin while fostering a sense of togetherness.

To start getting twins to sleep at night, consider doing the bedtime routine for both twins simultaneously. This joint approach not only saves time but also creates a consistent and predictable routine for your little ones. Begin with a calming activity like a bath. If your twins are under a year old, include a bedtime feed. Then you can read them a story or sing a lullaby. You can engage both twins in a shared experience that signals the transition from wakefulness to sleep. Once you’ve completely their bedtime routine, you can lay each twin into their crib or bed awake.

Sleep Training Twins Methods

When it comes to sleep training twins, there there are several different sleep training methods that cater to the unique needs of your dynamic duo. And which one you decide to go with will depend on their personality and what their sleep associations are. For example, if you have a baby who needs to be fed to sleep or rocked to sleep, I would probably recommend using the Medina Method. The reason I recommend this method frequently is because it provides you with the option to stay in the room with your twin as they settle into sleep. By staying by your child’s side as they’re learning this new sleep, you’ll be able to offer constant comfort, fostering a sense of security.

Alternatively, the interval check-in method is another effective strategy for sleep training twins. This method involves periodic visits to reassure the twins without constant presence. Parents can establish a predetermined interval, say five minutes, and check in on the twins during these intervals. This allows you as parents to offer comforting words or gentle touches without prolonged presence, teaching your twins to self-soothe and gradually become accustomed to independent sleep.

When choosing which method to use when sleep training twins, consider the temperament and preferences of each child. Some twins may respond better to the gradual withdrawal of the Medina Method, appreciating the comfort of a parent nearby. Others may thrive with the interval check-in method, gradually building confidence in self-soothing. And if you only have one parent doing sleep training, but have your children in different rooms, the Interval Check-In Method can be a good option.

Whichever method you choose, consistency is key. Establishing a routine and sticking to it will help twins adapt to the new sleep training approach, creating a foundation for peaceful nights for both babies and parents.

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As a parent, you know how important sleep is for both your twins and for you. . You may find it nerve-wracking to think about sleep training your twins. I understand the fear of crying…especially when you have two children you’re teaching at the same time. But here’s the thing – it’s a valid concern, and it’s essential to address it.

I’m here to help you navigate this challenging sleep training journey. With my expertise as a seasoned twin sleep coach, I understand your pain points and can guide you through making the necessary changes.

Ready to embark on the journey to tranquil nights for your twins but not sure where to start? I’m here to help. As your Twin Sleep Coach, I’ll help you craft a plan that will work for your family. Let’s get started by scheduling a free Discovery Call. This way I can learn more about your family and twin’s specific sleep challenges so we can makes sure we’re the perfect fit.

About the Author

I’m Kaley Medina, the proud founder of Live Love Sleep®. I live in Texas with my husband and high school sweetheart, Zeke, along with our two wonderful children, Evalyn and Leo, and our furry companion, Louie.
My journey into the world of sleep consultancy began with the sleep struggles of my own daughter, Evalyn. From her early days, she proved to be a challenging sleeper, staying awake for waaaaaay too long and causing many sleepless nights. I tried everything I could think of, from feeding her to sleep to bouncing on a yoga ball until my legs ached to the delicate process of transitioning her to her crib without waking her. I even resorted to late-night vacuuming while wearing her in a baby carrier….needless to say, none of it work.

The constant sleep deprivation left me frazzled and unable to enjoy precious moments with my family. Desperate for a solution, I ventured into the world of sleep training when Evalyn turned six months. To my surprise,

gentler methods yielded incredible results, transforming our lives. Fueled by this success, I became a Certified Sleep Consultant and founded Live Love Sleep®. As your Pediatric Sleep Consultant, I understand that a child’s sleep is influenced by various factors, including diet, sleep environment, routines, schedules, developmental milestones, and so much more.

I craft personalized sleep plans that consider the bigger picture to solve your child’s sleep challenges comprehensively. What sets my services apart is the ongoing support I provide, ensuring your family reaches its sleep goals within weeks.

A former client described the experience as “utterly LIFE CHANGING.” I’m committed to helping parents like you and your child get the rest you need and deserve. Let’s work together to achieve better sleep and a happier, healthier family life.

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